Be good to women. and if you have one woman in your life. that you care about. like for real. be even better to her.
Tell her shes beautiful. tell her she is good. tell her how she is your sanity. your muse. communicate. text message. call. write a letter. send an email. a memento. a song.
And when she is with you. hold her hand. touch her knee. look at her kinda creepy sometimes, because you know what? you could die tomorrow…and god damnit you would want to remember that face. right? and those eyes too. and kiss her in public. dont cling but be there. touch the small of her back. smile from across the room.
And when you are not together. make time to not be together. together.
Be honest. dont half ass anything. anything. dont nitpick. dont tease out of spite. dont be silent either. understand that certian things hit home more than others. know that she is product of her past. just as you are.
And be real. and not just when you’re drunk. spill your guts. what does it feel like to be you? how would i ever know unless you told me…
Bring her flowers. come over to her place. pay for her shitty beer. make her feel good about where she is at. and who she is with. and about her hair. let her have her space, but ask to invade it. and dont rule anything out, because if you really care about a woman. you will go the extra mile. you will go out of your comfort zone. to slay a fuckin dragon. or to even just kill a spider. roll up your sleeves. and lay down your coat. or even just sleep in her bed, for one night.
Be a man. man up. put on your fuckin armor and then take it off when you get to her. and that time comes. to be humble and noble. and pure.
Because you know what? someone else will eventually go that extra mile. slay a dragon or two. and take the extra step. and say fuck it to the manly comfort zone. to get to her. and then you lose.
Cause one day long after. in the mail. you might get a letter from her current lover, boyfriend, husband or life partner and it will read: “thank you for not doing x,y, and z, because she is the amazing, and she is my world”.
One woman of the world
Alright. Here’s the thing about this post. I read it and immediately swooned. I did. I hate that I did, but so it goes. That’s what you do when you’ve found your person. I recognize that it’s cheesy and it’s obvious. I know that and I don’t care. Because god dammit. It’s right.
I hope to that everyone is able to find the person who can fulfill at least this list for them, of what I think, are the basic needs for any sustainable relationship…because this only touches the surface of what we each deserve, right?
I’m very lucky… and even if (God forbid) this ended tomorrow, I’d consider myself lucky to have experienced a tenth of what is described above.
… because he not only goes the extra mile from across the country to make me feel great every day, he also flies across the country to tell me in person.
And I’d do the same for him… and that’s what being stupidly in love feels like.
If you can, hold out for it…. because goddamnit, it’s worth every bit of heartbreak to get to that person.